57. How to Get a Wife

There are many, too many, books and articles on subjects such as how to make friends, how to figure out your calling in life, how to find true love. I have been happily married for nearly a quarter of a century now. Marriage was not a given for me, not a realistic goal. I am […]

53. Reasons to Run Away

The holidays in the last two months of the year – namely, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. – are often times for sharing hearty meals and catching up with relatives and friends we may not have seen for a while. These can be happy occasions, awkward encounters, or even stormy confrontations. Sometimes, these get-togethers lead to sad […]

29. When You Are Not a Favorite

My wife tells me that she never liked her grandfather. He stunk of tobacco – he used to cut up cigars and smoke them in his pipe – ignored her and her siblings, and chased after young women well into his 80s. As a descendant of English-speaking European settlers in a Latin American country, he […]

5. To Stay or To Go

As a young, newly-married man in southern Italy, my father became a tenant farmer. He rented a large plot of land from a prominent member of a patrician family based near Florence. With only a zappa (a wide-bladed hoe), my dad, joined by his brothers and a couple of day laborers, cleared roots, grasses, weeds, […]